How to Write the Perfect Vows (ft. Styled Shoot!)
Doesn’t this fabulous shoot just make you want to write sonnets?
Well, it’s a good thing you’re feeling inspired, because it’s time to tackle those vows, y’all. Whether you’ve just been putting it off or your writer’s block has got you stumped, we’ve brought out our top tips for writing the PERFECT vows from scratch.
Talk it out…
First thing’s first: you and your boo need to be on the same page. Are you going for laughs? Perhaps you’re shooting to tug at the heartstrings. Maybe things are better kept short’n’sweet! No matter what route you lovebirds decide to go, it’s better to keep it consistent. Having a guideline for what to expect will make the writing process so much easier.
Gather inspiration.
Good news! If you’re stuck on where to begin, there are plenty of pre-written examples for wedding vows available online. Take the time to sort through Pinterest and wedding blogs-- but take a break if you start to feel overwhelmed. Remember, you’re only looking for a general structure to guide you to the perfect vows. Once you’ve found one or two, break out the pen and paper.
Get your word vomit on.
Okay, so there are probably cuter ways to coin the phrase, but the premise sticks. Get it all out there! Jot down every little thing you could possibly say. Once you’ve run out of material, go through the process of elimination. Consider that you might not want to say some things in front of all of your friends in family. Others might not work with the flow of the vow structure you’ve chosen to emulate.
(PS: don’t worry, you’ve a whole lifetime after your vows to say all of the things you couldn’t quite fit into your wedding day.)
Throwback to your high school English class!
Yawn, we know-- but we promise, your teacher totally had a point! If you’re still struggling to get it all down, conquer your vows like you would an essay. Begin with an introduction that leads into the heart of what you’re truly trying to say, and then wrap it all up with a poignant conclusion. It’s almost like your vows are a little love sandwich!
Practice makes perfect.
And not just in your head, either. Say them out loud to anyone who will listen. You’ll catch the tricky tongue twisters and be able to perfectly refine any awkward lines before the big day rolls around. By the time you’ve practiced your vows a few times, you’ll feel a lot more confident saying them in front of a crowd.
We fully expect to be in tears at your upcoming I&B wedding. Got any advice for your fellow vow-masters? Leave them in the comments down below.
{Vendor Credits} Photography: Jenn Eddine Photography // Flowers & Dress: Ivory & Beau // Makeup: Give Me Face by Shay Jones // Hair: A Wildflower Gypsy // Cake: The Topiary // Styling: Resplendent Living // Decor: Daughter Handwovens // Artwork: Santiago Print Co // Venue: Soho South Cafe